Wait to Become a Crime Victims’ Advocate: The Importance of Personal Recovery Before Becoming a Scam Victim Advocate
Authors:
• Vianey Gonzalez B.Sc(Psych) – Licensed Psychologist Specialty in Crime Victim Trauma Therapy, Neuropsychologist, Certified Deception Professional, Psychology Advisory Panel & Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
• Tim McGuinness, Ph.D. – Anthropologist, Scientist, Director of the Society of Citizens Against Relationship Scams Inc.
ABSTRACT
Becoming an advocate for scam victims is a noble goal, but it is essential that individuals fully recover from their own experiences before stepping into this role. Many victims feel an urge to regain control by helping others, but if they have not processed their trauma, they risk projecting unresolved emotions onto those they aim to support. Advocacy requires stability, emotional resilience, and a trauma-informed approach to be truly effective. Without proper recovery, aspiring advocates may experience burnout, make emotionally driven decisions, or unintentionally cause harm.
To ensure readiness, individuals should seek professional mental health support to process their experience, allowing them to approach advocacy with clarity and emotional stability. Time for healing is crucial, as recovery from scams varies and rushing into advocacy can exacerbate personal distress. Engaging in support groups provides insight into different victim experiences and fosters active listening skills, which are vital for effective advocacy. Additionally, education in trauma-informed care, fraud prevention, and victim psychology helps advocates provide accurate and ethical guidance rather than relying solely on personal experiences. Lastly, self-reflection is necessary to determine whether advocacy is truly about helping others or an attempt to resolve personal pain. By prioritizing personal recovery first, future advocates can ensure they are offering informed, ethical, and compassionate support to scam victims.
Wait to Become a Crime Victims’ Advocate: The Importance of Personal Recovery Before Becoming a Scam Victim Advocate
Experiencing a scam can be deeply traumatic, shaking one’s trust and self-assurance. In the aftermath, some victims feel a compelling urge to transform their ordeal into a force for good by becoming advocates for others facing similar situations. While this intention is noble, it’s crucial to recognize the importance of fully healing from one’s own experience before stepping into an advocacy role. Engaging in advocacy prematurely can have unintended negative consequences for both the aspiring advocate and those they aim to support.
The Appeal of Advocacy as a Means to Regain Control
After falling victim to a scam, individuals often grapple with feelings of powerlessness, shame, and betrayal. In an effort to reclaim control and find purpose, turning to advocacy can seem like a constructive path. By helping others, victims may believe they can transform their negative experience into something positive, thereby restoring their sense of agency. This desire aligns with findings that community involvement can help victims overcome feelings of low self-esteem, isolation, powerlessness, fear, and anger.
Potential Risks of Premature Advocacy
However, stepping into an advocacy role without adequate personal recovery can be problematic. If unresolved trauma and emotional distress persist, these issues may inadvertently influence the support provided to others. For instance, an advocate still grappling with their own experience might project their feelings onto those they are trying to help, leading to biased guidance or emotional over-involvement. This scenario can hinder the healing process for both parties involved.
Moreover, the emotional toll of advocacy work is significant. Advocates often encounter distressing stories and challenging situations, which can be overwhelming for someone who hasn’t fully processed their own trauma. This exposure can exacerbate unresolved issues, leading to burnout or secondary traumatic stress, ultimately diminishing the advocate’s ability to provide effective support.
The Importance of Trauma-Informed Care in Advocacy
Effective victim advocacy is rooted in a trauma-informed care approach, which emphasizes understanding and addressing the impact of trauma on individuals. Advocates are encouraged to re-establish power and control to the survivor, ensuring that support is empathetic and empowering. However, if an advocate has not fully healed from their own trauma, implementing this approach can be challenging, potentially compromising the quality of care provided.
Recommendations for Aspiring Advocates
For those who have experienced scams and wish to support others, it’s essential to prioritize personal healing before taking on an advocacy role.
Overview
Here are some steps to consider:
Seek Professional Support: Engage with mental health professionals who specialize in trauma to process your experience and develop coping strategies.
Allow Time for Healing: Recognize that recovery is a personal journey that varies in duration. Give yourself the necessary time to heal before assuming the responsibilities of advocacy.
Participate in Support Groups: Joining support groups can provide a sense of community and understanding, aiding in the healing process and offering insight into the experiences of others.
Educate Yourself: Gain a thorough understanding of trauma-informed care principles and the complexities of victim advocacy to ensure you are well-prepared for the challenges ahead.
Reflect on Motivations: Ensure that your desire to become an advocate stems from a place of readiness to support others, rather than a need to address your own unresolved feelings.
By focusing on personal recovery first, aspiring advocates can ensure they are in a stable and healthy position to provide the empathetic and effective support that scam victims need. This approach not only safeguards the well-being of the advocate but also enhances the quality of assistance offered to those seeking help.
In-Depth
For those who have experienced scams and wish to support others, it is essential to prioritize personal healing before taking on an advocacy role. The desire to help others is commendable, but without proper emotional recovery, victims-turned-advocates risk bringing unresolved trauma into their work, which can negatively impact both themselves and the people they seek to assist. Before stepping into advocacy, there are several important steps to consider to ensure that the journey is both ethical and sustainable.
Seek Professional Support
One of the most critical steps in preparing for advocacy is engaging with mental health professionals who specialize in trauma. Recovering from a scam involves more than just financial restitution—it requires processing the emotional wounds left behind, including feelings of betrayal, shame, and loss of trust. Speaking with a therapist or counselor can help address these emotions in a safe and structured environment. Professionals trained in trauma-informed care can guide individuals through coping strategies, emotional regulation techniques, and methods to rebuild self-confidence.
Without professional support, aspiring advocates may struggle with lingering emotional distress that can cloud their ability to provide clear, objective support to scam victims. Advocacy work often involves hearing difficult stories from others, and if an individual has not fully processed their own trauma, these experiences can serve as triggers, leading to emotional burnout or re-traumatization. Ensuring that past experiences are properly addressed through therapy or counseling is a crucial step in becoming a responsible and effective advocate.
Allow Time for Healing
Recovery from a scam is not an overnight process. The emotional, financial, and psychological toll of fraud can take months or even years to fully process. Each victim’s journey is unique, and it is important to allow oneself the necessary time to heal before taking on the added responsibility of advocacy. Rushing into advocacy before achieving a stable emotional state can lead to a cycle of frustration, self-doubt, and even worsening trauma.
Time allows for reflection, self-assessment, and the development of a new perspective on the scam experience. As healing progresses, individuals can develop a deeper understanding of their own emotional triggers, resilience, and coping mechanisms. Once an individual reaches a point where they can discuss their experience without overwhelming emotional distress, they are in a much better position to provide steady and objective support to others. Advocacy should come from a place of strength, not lingering pain, and giving oneself the time to heal ensures that both the advocate and the victims they assist benefit from the interaction.
Participate in Support Groups
Support groups offer a valuable bridge between being a victim and becoming an advocate. By engaging with others who have experienced similar fraud, individuals can gain insight into different perspectives, coping mechanisms, and recovery strategies. These groups provide a sense of community and validation, helping victims feel less isolated in their experiences.
Participating in support groups also allows future advocates to practice active listening—a crucial skill in advocacy. Listening to others’ experiences without immediately offering solutions or advice fosters empathy and emotional intelligence, both of which are essential when working with scam victims. Additionally, engaging with a group can help individuals recognize patterns in victim responses, common pitfalls in recovery, and effective strategies that work across different situations.
Aspiring advocates should spend time in support groups not only as participants but as observers. Before guiding others through the trauma of fraud, it is important to first understand the depth of its impact from multiple perspectives. This exposure helps develop a balanced and informed approach to advocacy.
Educate Yourself
Becoming a scam victim advocate requires more than personal experience—it demands knowledge of trauma-informed care, victim psychology, fraud prevention tactics, and legal or financial recovery options. While firsthand experience provides valuable insight, it is not enough to provide comprehensive support to other victims. Education is necessary to ensure that advocacy is based on best practices rather than personal biases.
Understanding trauma-informed care is especially important, as it teaches advocates how to engage with victims in a way that empowers them rather than re-traumatizing them. Victims of scams often feel powerless, and an effective advocate knows how to restore their sense of control by offering choices, validating emotions, and guiding them toward informed decisions. Training programs, workshops, and certification courses in victim advocacy can provide this essential knowledge.
Additionally, staying informed about fraud trends, scam tactics, and financial recovery processes ensures that advocates provide up-to-date and accurate information. Advocacy should be built on reliable resources, not just personal anecdotes. Education equips aspiring advocates with the tools needed to provide practical, ethical, and effective support.
Reflect on Motivations
Before stepping into advocacy, it is essential to engage in honest self-reflection regarding personal motivations. While helping others can be fulfilling, advocacy should never serve as a means to resolve one’s own lingering trauma. Some scam victims may feel that by advocating for others, they can regain control over their own situation or find closure. While advocacy can be a meaningful way to channel past experiences, using it as a coping mechanism can lead to emotional exhaustion, frustration, or ineffective support.
A key question to ask is: Am I doing this for the victim’s benefit, or am I trying to heal my own wounds through advocacy? If emotions such as anger, resentment, or a need for personal validation are still driving the desire to advocate, it may be wise to postpone involvement until those feelings have been properly addressed.
Additionally, advocacy should not be about seeking revenge or “getting back” at scammers. Advocates must remain professional and emotionally neutral, offering guidance that is in the victim’s best interest rather than influenced by personal anger or unresolved issues. If the motivation for advocacy is still tied to personal pain, it is likely too soon to take on the role. True advocacy comes from a place of emotional stability, where the focus is entirely on helping others heal rather than on personal recovery.
Conclusion: Advocacy Requires Readiness, Not Just Willingness
The desire to support scam victims is admirable, but without personal recovery, advocacy can do more harm than good. Scam victim advocates must ensure they are in a stable, emotionally secure position before taking on the responsibility of guiding others through their trauma. Seeking professional support, allowing adequate time for healing, participating in support groups, educating oneself, and reflecting on personal motivations are essential steps in preparing for advocacy work.
Victim advocacy is not about using one’s own experience as the sole qualification—it is about applying knowledge, emotional resilience, and ethical decision-making to provide meaningful assistance to others. By prioritizing self-healing first, aspiring advocates can ensure they are truly ready to make a positive difference in the lives of those who need support. Taking the time to heal not only benefits the individual but ensures that their advocacy work will be ethical, sustainable, and genuinely helpful to scam victims in need.
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While any self-help techniques outlined herein may be beneficial for scam victims seeking to recover from their experience and move towards recovery, it is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional before initiating any course of action. Each individual’s experience and needs are unique, and what works for one person may not be suitable for another.
Additionally, any approach may not be appropriate for individuals with certain pre-existing mental health conditions or trauma histories. It is advisable to seek guidance from a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide personalized support, guidance, and treatment tailored to your specific needs.
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